After church on Sunday I made the kids take a walk in the woods across the street to take a family picture. The fall colors have been so pretty and the weather was perfect, so since I am not paying for pics this year, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to capture a photo. No one was super happy about it so I tried to bribe them with tickets (our current award system). Steven pretty much grumbled the whole time (sort of his thing anyways) and Tyler grumbled about having to set up the phone for a pic but the rest of the kids did great and we got a semi decent pic out of it, just got to zoom in a bit.
Sunday, October 30, 2022
Pumpkins, Trunk or Treat
Sunday, October 23, 2022
Snow, A Painting, A Walk, Soccer
Monday morning was quite infuriating. On the way to school I had an argument with one of my seminary students. She was saying all people from the South were weird and she would never want to live there and they have a terrible govt- especially the people in FL and TX. I said that wasn't very nice and she kept pushing it. It bothers me because she is so about not bullying and being kind...except when it's people that don't share her idealogy. When I tried to hold her accountable for the mean things she was saying, she said I shouldn't take it so personally and that she was only joking. Argh. It left me feeling frustrated and anxious.
Monday itself was very Monday- it was cold and rainy. I am struggling to drive in the dark and rain these days- the glare from headlights is making it real hard for me to see properly. Is the a sign of getting old? The rain ended up getting both the girls and Ben's soccer practices cancelled so that was a relief. No need to drive dangerously. Although I did miss my quiet time in the Milford library.
Tuesday morning I met Stefanie for breakfast. I think we're going to make this a monthly tradition. It was nice to catch up, although I always feel like I can't articulate my thoughts and end up sounding like a weirdo. I am surprised she's still my friend. I mentioned that I feel like I should probably start working again with the way life is getting so expensive and she started listing off all these ideas for me to make money. I realized she definitely has one of those personalities that likes to try to find a solution to every problem. Idk. I look at jobs and just can't imagine working again. My pattriarchal blessings says I should find a vocation that helps Heavenly Father's children. Obviously teaching was that thing once upon a time but sometimes I wonder if there is still another vocation out there for me.
Wednesday night we had Steven's Tennis Banquet. I think he had a good time but it was awful for me. Literally everyone there knew each other and were all chatting and having a good time. Tyler and I sat at a table in a corner by our lonesome. I keep wondering how they all made friends and why I never seemed able to. I really did try. Maybe these parents have all known each other from elementary school? I just feel anxious thinking about feeling this left out for another 3 years. I want Steven to stick with it but I just hate feeling so out of place. Anyways, the coach gave everyone a certificate and a compliment. She complimented him on his improvements. I am not sure I saw it, lol, but I am glad she did. He did not win any of the awards handed out but I think he should have got an award for sticking with it ;).
Thursday was a day with no set plans that once again filled up. I vacuumed the car, cleaned up some of the trash the kids left in our yard, prepared dinner, did the laundry and then painted over the picture in our living room. I spent basically the rest of the day working on the painting. I think I like the end product but I really wish I could take some art classes so I could learn some new techniques.
Also Thursday, we got out first snow fall of the season. It is WAY too early for snow and I am worried for what this means for our winter. Tne snow stopped by evening so Ben still had soccer practice but the girl's coach felt it was too cold for practice so he cancelled.
Friday the weather warmed up. It was magnificent! We went on a nature walk at Proud Lake with our friends. The weather was seriously perfect and we came across some snakes and a frog. The kids also had fun throwing sticks in the water- much to the dismay of an elderly gentleman who reprimanded them. It just sticks in water for Pete's Sake.
Saturday morning the girls had their last soccer game. They won 3-2. It was a good comeback game. Penny is still scared of the ball but did kick it once. And Lucy seems to do really well playing defense.
Sunday, October 16, 2022
Northville Skeletons, Pumpkin Head Pics
Monday the kids were itching to do something so after they finished their work we took a brisk bike ride to 7-11, it's getting cold here. There they paid for their own candy and Penny came up 3 cents short and I of course had no change, just a credit card. I felt embarassed but the cashier was nice and said not to worry about it. When we got back home I took all 3 kids with me to run a few errands- Target, Meijer's and Kroger's. It reminded me why I don't shop with all of them any more. Even as old as they are, they can be a lot to take out shopping. Monday evening was soccer practice as per usual, just one more week and that will come to an end. Which is good because as mentioned before, it is getting COLD!
Tuesday night was Bunco. It was a costume party so I pulled out my cactus costume. I look like a Jolly Green Giant in that group. Bunch of shorties. There were a couple prizes I REALLY wanted that night so of course I had an average score in the end and the prizes I wanted got taken first. I ended up with cloth napkins and ghost salt and pepper shakers- meh. The hosts lately have had prizes for everyone and I am not sure how I feel about that. It's nice that everyone gets something but I am pretty sure they are spending their own money to make that happen and I just can't do that when it's my turn. The bar has been set too high lately.
Wednesday afternoon Penny had her annual check up. The doctor said that she had a slight curve in her spine. She also said that about Ben and me so I am not sure what to think. A part of me is super anxious because she is so young so it has time to get worse. The other part thinks if me and Ben are fine, maybe she'll be ok too? The anxious part of me is the one who talked to the doctor. We ended up setting up another visit in 6 months and depending how Penny's back looks, we might try physical therapy. Maybe it's overboard, I don't know. I guess time will tell.
Thursday while the kids were in school I ran a few errands, including getting paint for the kitchen cabinets. They keep chipping by the knobs and so I keep having to refresh the paint. I asked the worker what I could do to help prevent chipping. She said I could use a sealant but then I would have to do the whole cabinet door. Sounds like a lot of work so I guess I will just keep fixing the chips. I also finished getting and making some things for the kid's costumes this year. I did such a good job on Steven's shirt that he thought I had bought it. I meean he's also a teen who doesn't look at things too hard but I'll take the compliment.
Thursday evening was soccer. On my way to drop the girls off to practice I dropped by a little birthday gift for one of my Bunco friends. She had really wanted one of the prizes from Bunco Tues night but hadn't gotten it (just like me). When I saw it at Target, I knew I needed to get it for her. It felt nice to give a succesful birthday gift- my gift giving skills are sub par. After their practice we decided to stop at the candy shop in town, they have been dying to visit it. I regret going there. It was a mess, boxes of candy on the floor, stuffies in piles on the floor and then there was this group of very suspicious teens miling in and out and very much appearing to be stealing. When they left, the lady followed us around like we might be similar suspects. Nope. I feel no desire to return there.
Friday, after Steven got home from school, we met the May family in Northville for our annual visit to the skeletons. It was a good time, they always have more fun when friends join us. Lots of photo ops, a fun game of Jenga and cornhole toss, a quick stop at a candy store (a much nicer one than the one in Milford), and play time at a nearby park.
Sunday, October 9, 2022
Smores
Sunday evening we had Smores. We were going to have smores with Mariah's family but it just never worked out. So this was our makeup date because the kids must have their smores. I had bought the giant marshmallows and boy did we all make a mess of our faces with them. Penny and Lucy also turned a couple marshmallows into flames and found that slightly tragic.
Monday morning in seminary we had a student comment that men are unneeded. Tyler didn't appreciate that and said that was sexist. The student said men don't experience sexism. Ummm...actually they do...we cut off the conversation there but we heard later from a mom, that her kid was super offended by the comment of men being unneeded. I mean, understandable. Tyler decided to spend Tuesday talking about seeing where others are coming from, respecting others and agreeing to disagree and that sort of thing. I don't think it phased either of them. She still makes offensive comments and he still gets upset by her comments. *sigh*
Monday afternoon Steven had his final tennis match in Plymouth. I was grateful it was on a day I didn't have to pick up the other kids from school so it wasn't stressful to get him there. I was also really grateful it was his last one...Tennis has been good for Steven. It has gotten him out of the house, out of his comfort zone and meeting new people. But man, the getting him to and from places was challenging. Anyways, he played 2 matches that afternoon with his usual partner, Gabe. The first one they were super close to winning but ended up losing 6-8. After that he was complaining that he was tired and everything hurt and I think he just kind of gave up. They lost the next match 1-8. The drive home was more eventful than I would have liked. Stupid Google (Google has not been clear at freeway junctions lately) led me astray and I ended up on the wrong freeway which of course was under construction so I was stuck on it, in heavy traffic for 3.5 miles before I could get off and turn around. It ended up being like a 20 minute detour. What made it worse was that I was taking one of Steven's teammates home too so I felt super embarrased for my mistake. When I got him home, his mom came out to say thank you and I ended up word vomitting on her about my stupid detour and all the things- I'm a little much sometimes. After dropping the teammate off, I decided we should have a Subway "date" to help calm my frazzled nerves from the drive. It did help.
Tuesday for the first time in awhile we had nothing going on in the afternoon/evening and that was nice. The girls had just finished the first book in "Lemony Snicket's, A Series of Unfortunate Events" so we decided to watch the first episode in the Netflix series of this book.
Tuesday and Wednesday I spent a lot of time messaging a friend from high school in What'sApp. It was a draining conversation. She feels betrayed by her blind obedience of the prophet during covid (she lost friends) and she also read something that basically disproved the book of mormon but she says was written by a church historian. So essentially she is having a crisis of faith. I finally got to where as Tyler had talked about, I had to just agree to disagree. It was disheartening. She really has a lot of bad feelings attached to the church but she says she's not going to leave it so...IDK.
Wednesday Steven had no school so there was no seminary. He wanted his buddy over so after the other kids finished their schoolwork we had all the May kids over for the afternoon. It makes for a noisy house but I don't mind too much because they keep my kids entertained. That evening we had all their activities at the church which was so refreshing. I love the convenience and I love that I get to hang out with my friends while I wait. I had a good conversation with Caroline about what I had been talking to my high school friend about. It helped kind of sooth some of my anxiety that had been stirred up in the conversations and reassured my own feeling in the Gospel.
Thursday I had lunch with Caroline, Grace and Melissa. Melissa hosted and fed us, that was nice. I think I am next on the docket to host and feed but I have no idea what to cook for my gluten free, low carb, low sugar friends. They are much too healthy for me. When we finished eating we sat out on her deck and chatted, the weather was so nice. I will say my friends shared a lot more details of their married life than I might want to know.
Thursday after dinner I took the girls to their soccer practice and had my quiet, library time reading up on Jeremiah for seminary next week. I really love my library time, it makes the drive to practice worth it. It's too bad we don't live by the Milford library anymore. It seems so much quieter than ours and it has such a pretty view of the woods that ours doesn't have.
Friday morning for seminary one of our students, for the umpteenth time shared too much info about her parents divorce. I feel bad for her because I know it is a fresh wound that she is coming to terms with but I got a text from someone complaining that the kids are getting tired of this student oversharing. I don't know what this parent wants me to do about it. I'm not sure there is a nice way to tell someone to stop oversharing.
After seminary it was a nice chill day. We did school work and then the kids and I walked to the library (pic below). After the library we went and got doughnuts at Longs Farm because I am addicted and that was our day. I had a seminary student playing in marching band at night that I thought about going to see but ugh, I'm such a homebody at night. I keep feeling like I need to be more supportive of my seminary students but am struggling with the carry through.
Saturday morning the girls had a soccer game. It was in the 40's so I bundled up good and didn't freeze too bad while watching. It did leave me feeling bummed that the cold is settling in though. I want some more of the beautiful 70's and I'll even take the 60's. Anyways, the girl's team won 2-0- yay! The rest of our Saturday was fairly uneventful. I read an entire book, planned my seminary lessons and made some playdough. That evening Tyler and I went out to dinner at a new place- Billy Tip'n Inn. It had really good bread so that's a winner to me. It also wasn't super crowded and the service was fast- big plus these days.
Sunday, October 2, 2022
Visit from the Jones Family
Late Monday night Mariah and her family arrived at our house. This is the first time ever that a sibling of Tyler's had visited us here in Michigan- we've been here 8 years. Tuesday morning we took them on a walk to Scarlet's Park. Jeff was very excited by the grass- apparently the grass in Missouri isn't that pretty. He even had to call his dad to tell him about it. Lol. The kids had a good time playing, mostly. Penny kept feeling like she was being left out by Lucy and Jessie. I guess she was just emotional that morning. And Ben was really sweet and looked after Red while we were there. After awhile he said he was ready to go home because Red was exhausting "he keeps endangering his life." Ben's a good kid. He'll make a good parents someday.
After the park we had some lunch and then after all the kids had some time to relax from our morning adventure we went to Spicer Orchard. Tyler took a half day at work so he was able to come with us. The plan had been to pick apples but when we got there it was raining so that put a wrench in things. We spent some time in the shop instead browsing all the yummy things and buying yummy things too. Then we went outside and sat under the ramada to eat our yummy things. The weather eventually cleared and we decided we would go take a hayride. Red had expressed that the hayride made him nervous so his parents were determined that he face his fears. He did face them and with no issues because Uncle Tyler kept him safe :). The apples were super pricey to pick so instead we picked raspberries- only $5 a carton vs $22 a peck. Also I had just bought apples at Costco so we didn't really need any. There were a lot of fresh raspberries to pick. I was surprised because I thought they were more of a summer thing. All in all a good outing.








































































